This wonderful talk by Dan Siegel is one of what I call My Five Wake Up Videos. Videos that gave me strength to face my fear, showed me the way and kept me going even "through the darkest depths of Mordor"
In just a little over 5 minutes this clip deepened my understanding of the most important theory behind Complex PTSD as well as the only way to heal. Just watch it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27FSiBqEDUs The way he compares the negative neurological response to alternative chosen (healing) activities/interaction.... How using the Wheel of Consent can help us recognize … Continue reading “If you can’t explain it simply you have not understood enough” -Albert Einstein
The first of March 2014.... We had talked online and on the phone for a week. I had taken a train 400 miles but had to wait almost three hours before she turned up and two before she even answered my calls. She had forgotten to turn it on.... In control of things even before … Continue reading She came up those stairs
Jag prövar att börja skriva även på Svenska. När jag skall berätta min egen historia så blir det så mycket enklare att skriva på modersmålet till människor som lever i mitt eget land och egen kultur. Skälet att jag började på Engelska vara mycket att jag var rädd för att bli alltför ensam här om … Continue reading Nya tag….. på Svenska
It's now more than 6 weeks since I declared that I would begin writing short simple posts on a daily basis...... I claimed it was because of some perfection complex..... Well this might be true but what is behind that? FEAR, pure primal fear. Fear of being attacked, criticized, accused, belittled. Fear of not being … Continue reading It’s Fear that keeps me from writing.
I had so many ideas about this site/blog but I am stuck not getting further then my Instagram account. I guess the problem is that I aim way to high..... Perfection..... I have no right o bother you unless I really have something to say, some "perfect" article that "explains it all", well at least … Continue reading I am stuck with my writing (and my life)
Uppdate 2018-06-01 I wrote this post when I had just been able to break out of isolation by attending ACA meetings. Since then I have found A LOT that I do not like with ACA. Some people describe AA as an organisation designed by narcissists for narcissists. I am not in AA but I have … Continue reading Adult Children of Narcissists
Step one in the process of breaking free from narcissism, identify the Enemy.... https://youtu.be/J4-2LFCS6iM If you don't take the shortcut and put all the blame outside of you, you will will find that it lives inside your head. This is not you are though, this is who "They" expected you to be.... who you … Continue reading Know your Enemy……
Writing about my ex I used the words Evil Ways and of course my brain made yet another musical association. Evil Ways...... Santana....? Yes its Santana and he has described Narcissistic partners even better or what do you think? https://youtu.be/EVeHHmGcoNk And i kept searching...... Anyone who can relate? https://youtu.be/FYcyf2Mu0-c Ok, Evil Ways..... with a very … Continue reading She is not there…….
There is A LOT about narcissism on the internet though very much of it is from a Victim perspective, including stuff from well known coaches and therapists..... It's all about Them.... They are Evil and You/We are targeted simply because that we are so Good. The cruel truth about narcissistic relationships is that you are … Continue reading It takes two to Tango