This wonderful talk by Dan Siegel is one of what I call My Five Wake Up Videos. Videos that gave me strength to face my fear, showed me the way and kept me going even "through the darkest depths of Mordor"
In just a little over 5 minutes this clip deepened my understanding of the most important theory behind Complex PTSD as well as the only way to heal. Just watch it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27FSiBqEDUs The way he compares the negative neurological response to alternative chosen (healing) activities/interaction.... How using the Wheel of Consent can help us recognize … Continue reading “If you can’t explain it simply you have not understood enough” -Albert Einstein
Uppdate 2018-06-01 I wrote this post when I had just been able to break out of isolation by attending ACA meetings. Since then I have found A LOT that I do not like with ACA. Some people describe AA as an organisation designed by narcissists for narcissists. I am not in AA but I have … Continue reading Adult Children of Narcissists
There is A LOT about narcissism on the internet though very much of it is from a Victim perspective, including stuff from well known coaches and therapists..... It's all about Them.... They are Evil and You/We are targeted simply because that we are so Good. The cruel truth about narcissistic relationships is that you are … Continue reading It takes two to Tango
I have met my ghosts I have been able to get rid of my own false (narcissistic) self though I am still fighting my fears of being unseen/rejected. Every step I take to make real connection, to tell some more of my history is a step that puts me at high risk of being triggered … Continue reading Immobilize without Fear
The toxic family is a regime built on fear of abandonment. A sect where "love" is never unconditional and everyone, at least subconsciously, knows they will be excluded if they reveal the truth, even to themselves...... Narcissus did not fall in love with himself, he fell in love with his own reflection..... The narcissist long … Continue reading The Narcissists Family